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On Rememberance Day

– By Kirsty Greenshields

Here’s why Rememberance Day is so important to me. And why I, personally, am placing a whole bunch of Love, Joy, Compassion and Kindness in to that doorway at 11am today. Eight and a half years ago, a man who was feeling a bit (no, a lot) broken returned to me from a war zone. Well, he didn’t actually fully return at that time – his complete return took several years.

But here’s the thing. I never, not once, bought in to the belief that there was anything wrong with him. There wasn’t. What he needed was someone to continue to affirm the fact that he was ALIVE! And what was necessary was for him to make a different DECISION about himself, and about this gift of a second chance at life. Because, let’s face it, things weren’t looking so bright before he got hit by the bomb.

Nope. I never ever bought into the entitlement, to the self-pity, to the belief that life was hell. I just loved him, as best I could. It didn’t always seem like a perfect love, but it was just what he needed. Sometimes it was pretty tough love actually.

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And, little by little, he started to see what I was on about. And when he fully bought in to this fact that LIFE IS A GIFT (and he had been given an incredibly huge one!), our life together began to turn around. Now it is amazing, and my own love of life is ever-expanding, because of him. Because of you, James Greenshields.

And in the last couple of years, others have seen what he has done with his life, and have wanted to know how they can do the same. So he taught them how. They too are now turning their lives around and the people who love them are thankful. His program is Awakening The Warrior Within.

So here’s what I’m remembering today, at 11am.

I remember the miracle of Abi waking when James was hit by the bomb so we could help him come back to his body and begin the journey of healing.

I remember the miracle of conceiving our miracle Pene, in my first cycle after his return from Iraq.

I remember the miracle of falling in love all over again, with a man I had never met, because the old ‘us’ died somewhere along the way, so the new ‘us’ could create a life of joy together.

I REMEMBER LIFE.

What will you remember?

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Domestic Violence. What’s not being talked about?

By Kirsty Greenshields

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. WHAT’S NOT BEING TALKED ABOUT?

Yesterday a dear friend asked me to comment on the domestic violence issue currently being profiled so strongly in the Australian media. So here I am, writing about it today. Firstly, why do I believe I have a voice to speak up about what’s not being talked about in the mainstream media?

1. I am human
2. I am a woman
3. I didn’t always feel safe growing up as a little girl
4. I took a stand in my marriage, when I feared for my child’s safety, and decided to powerfully change the cycle
5. I have helped many women powerfully change the cycle too.

I didn’t always feel safe growing up. There was yelling, emotional unavailability, and smacking. When my dad left – I was 10 years old – I chose to feel abandoned by him. After healing work, I now know I chose to believe I would therefore be abandoned by men I love, which resulted in me choosing emotionally unavailable men in relationship. This proved my belief to be true, and continued my reality cycle, of feeling ABANDONED and UNSAFE in the world.

Notice I use the language, “I chose” – it is confronting to think I would choose these decisions, isn’t it? But when I take responsibility for these choices, it gives me power to choose different beliefs for myself. I love my parents, and I know they love me. It was my beliefs about myself, and the world around me, which created my circumstances.

Several years ago, in the moment I saw my little girl pinned against a wall, as her daddy screamed at her – her eyes like dinner plates serving fear – I knew I had gone too far in perpetuating my cycle of belief. It wasn’t just me I now impacted. It was her, and the little being growing inside of me, which helped me take a stand and say “No more”. I did not run as I had when I felt scared in the past.

I MET THE DRAGON FACE TO FACE, SAW JUST AS MUCH FEAR IN HIS EYES AS MINE, AND TOOK BACK MY POWER.

It was a long road, but each step of the way, and with each stumble, I remembered WHY I was doing it. I WANT TO FEEL SAFE in the world. And I want those I love to feel safe. I want them to know the only way they will achieve this is to CREATE THE SAFETY for themselves.

Notice I said “Those I Love”, rather than ‘my children’. Yes. Because I include my partner in this desire. At the height of his anger, HE WAS IN PAIN.

*This is a point I want to make strongly, and one I wish for every person in our society to understand, because those who control the media understand it, and they use it to keep you afraid. But if you open your mind, and your heart, together we can help humanity heal*

When someone strikes out, they are in pain. They are fearful for their life, for their safety, and they have lost themselves. They FEEL lost and SMALL and they are DESPERATE.

The power comes when we see this, and we respond to this issue. Yes, I know you may feel resistance at this point, because of atrocities that have been recently committed, and that’s okay. Not everyone likes what I have to say.

One of my mentors, Caroline Myss, says “War – out there – exists because war exists inside of us”.

THE PERPETRATOR OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FEELS JUST AS UNSAFE AS THE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

That is why he/she lashes out – in FEAR. The difference between the triumphant survivor of this situation, and the one who continues to be caught in the cycle, is CHOICE.

The person who moves beyond the cycle no longer chooses to be a victim to people, circumstance and environment. This person chooses COMPASSION – first and foremost to the one who matters most (to oneself). This is a powerful act, which allows them to choose, at some point, to view the perpetrator with compassion. At this point, the person who was once the victim calls back his/her power, and sees the other person for the scared little child they are.

THIS IS WHERE LOVE IS CHOSEN OVER FEAR, AND THIS IS WHERE THE CYCLE BREAKS.

No, it’s not an easy road, but it’s an empowering one.

IT’S NOT OKAY for us as women to continue projecting our ideas of feeling unsafe in the world onto men. They don’t know how to feel safe in the world either! They keep being told their species is VIOLENT, that they are WRONG, and that they are not doing a good job of PROVIDING.

So a man tries! He sells his Soul to do a J.O.B. that he believes he SHOULD do, so he can get money to help those he loves feel safe in the world. But resentment builds – a wife feels ALONE and UNLOVED. The children feel ABANDONED by their dad because he is never present. The man feels HOPELESS so he WITHDRAWS even more. The result? No-one feels safe.

It’s time to STOP! Please. If you look into the world and feel anger or grief as you witness pain and suffering, ask yourself “How am I continuing to choose this in my own life?” How do I still choose to be a victim?

Do you love the person you choose as your partner? Do you want to be with them? If the answer is no, leave. And do it powerfully. Seek support from people who understand – people who want to EMPOWER – not people who reinforce your victimhood and powerlessness in the world.

If you’re not sure, stay until you decide to make a POWERFUL decision. And if you stay again, take back your power. Look the dragon in the eyes and see his pain and fear. It is here, at this moment, you will OPEN TO LOVE and choose a powerful way forward, for both of you.

If you haven’t already, download our free book “Living Resilient Relationships – How to Create Harmony and Better Understand Those You Love” at http://www.centreforresilientleadership.com.

In Love, Kirsty

Rite of Passage

(**This article is a reproduction of the article written by Cat Lindsay, for the ‘Parallel Lives’ section of ‘U Magazine’, inside The Sunday Mail, 26th April 2015**)

James Greenshields has gone from being a leader of soldiers to leading boys on a journey to manhood and self-discovery.

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James Greenshields, 40, Burringbar.

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It’s time to talk about the REAL leadership role of women

By Kirsty Greenshields

We’ve been hoodwinked! And it’s time to pull off the covers and expose the truth.

Women still think we have to make it, and have SUCCESS, in a man’s world of money, success, and a misconception of ‘having it all’, instead of recognising that our version of success is so much more fun. And sexier!

My discussions about the transition of the leadership of humanity started with a friend, over a couple of champagnes, during new year celebrations 2013/2014.

She was a high-flying, SUCCESSFUL, journalist, whose words encourage deep waves of emotion in me every time I read her work. She decided to leave the bravado of the news room behind, and begin a new career as a self-employed freelance writer.

She asked me, an ex-Australian army intelligence officer turned naturopath, what we could be doing to encourage women to stay in these careers.

My answer was “nothing”. She looked at me, shocked. “Why ever not? Shouldn’t we want to create better conditions in these environments, so women will want to stay? So they feel more valued? So they can experience SUCCESS as a Mother, and as a Professional Woman?”

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Are Veterans A Special Case?

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by James Greenshields

This post may challenge many service personnel, but I know by your choice to serve you are up for the challenge.

The reason I help People to get results when I work with them is because I tell them how it is; I call the ‘white elephant in the room’. I help them be honest and accountable to the only person that matters – themselves. Yet being brutally honest with myself, I haven’t done this with myself about the veterans issue until today.

I realized something today about the Veterans Program we’re running. This is the first veterans specific program I’ve run in a number of years. I thought it appropriate to explain why, and change that.

As many will know I served on operations in East Timor and Iraq.

I believe there is nothing special about being a veteran.

I believe there is something special about being a Person.

Continue reading Are Veterans A Special Case?

The Importance Of The Welcome Home

by: James Greenshields

What do most women in a relationship want?

A man who is courageous enough to live life with an open heart.

What do most men in a relationship want?

To feel loved.

You can’t feel love without an open heart.Oh No Not You Again

I’ve just come out of the bush working with some amazingly courageous men to assist them open their hearts. This is a thing I’d challenge most men with; we have a default setting to live within a suit of armour, an act or series of behaviours designed to protect us. This suit of armour closes our hearts.  Continue reading The Importance Of The Welcome Home

The Bad Guy Doesn’t Get The Girl!

Not A True Masculine ManI was just shown a clip about Julien Blanc.

I’d like to go to one of this guy’s seminars.

I’d really like to have the morning tea conversation with the attendees and ask them: “So you believe the only way you can have a lady go down on you is to force them with your hand? So what you are telling me is that you are not man enough to be so attractive to a woman that she wants to do this?” 

A common misconception, especially amongst teenaged boys, is that “The bad guy gets the girl”. The ‘girl’ doesn’t want the bad guy per se. Matter of fact look what generally happens to their relationship over time. Women want the confidence the ‘bad guy’ puts out. After time, she finds out it is wafer thin and the relationship goes south.

So True Masculine Men, your partner wants you to be confident. For you to create an environment for her to trust you. You desire to enter her body, her temple, and if you simply think you can con your way into a goddess, think again. The passionate encounters that make your brain fry come about through confident connection where she trusts you enough to allow herself to let go, to surrender to the moment and allow unbridled energy to flow through her veins.

So if you think your bedroom life needs an update, start with what you are putting out in the realm of confidence.
All this said, I’ve been working with some amazing men who only want to know how to respect their partners more. This I believe is the direction ‘mankind’ is heading (no pun intended)

If you’re a guy who wants more confidence, you would benefit from:http://www.centreforresilientleadership.com/…/awakening-th…/Awakening The Warrior Within

Why The World Will Be Changed By Western Women

BESIDE every great man stands a great woman.

Truth. It’s somewhat altered from the original statement, which used the adjective ‘behind’. The feminist movement of the 60’s told us us we had to be out front. We had to ‘fight’ the men to have our true freedom. It’s time to correct this perception.

strong women= strong worldFemininism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength

I like to break things down to their most simplistic form, after all, we are all made of space. It’s simple.

This world of Money is Power has been created because men did not feel safe. Over centuries of conditioning they disconnected from the(ir) feminine and have been attempting to regain a sense of control ever since. They created a warped sense of power, based upon success and providing for ‘her’.

A boy is conditioned away from his feminine as he grows – by his father AND his mother, and he becomes a man who views the feminine aspect of his personality as weak.

As a result he loses his full strength – his full power.

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This disconnection plays out in his relationships, where he attempts to regain some feelings of control UNTIL he finds a woman who sees his true power and who has the courage to match it with her own.

Remember, we are each equal parts male/female. This woman, in seeing her partner, will recognise she too has disconnected from her true feminine, from the Mother, and she will use his feelings of powerlessness as a way for them BOTH to reconnect with the Mother.

Because she has more of a natural tendency to the feminine, she will lead him and she will create the space he needs to feel safe, as he explores his more ‘vulnerable’ side.

This decision will be tough for her at times, because she may not have many vulnerable male role models in her life, but her gift is her strength – her natural connection to the Mother, simply because she is a woman, and to the ebb and flow of the natural world.

As she tunes in to this gift of a woman, she allows herself to let go of any need to SAVE him, or to drag him along. Like the great Mother Earth, she recognises she will be fine, for as long as she TRUSTS in this ebb and flow.

It is when she does not trust that they both falter. When she becomes blinded by the false idols of power, she will forget the meaning of true safety.

 

But when she remembers true power, she remembers how to help him.

She remembers her purpose and God-given gifts, because she was born a woman in this lifetime.

It is the basis of all growth – the communion of the masculine and the feminine. Like yin and yang, one does not exist without the other – within and without. For humanity to heal it is time for women to let go of the NEED TO BE SEEN to achieve. This idea is a concept born in the absurdity of false concepts of power.

We achieve simply by being! You have a woman’s body. What a gift! You know it is, because men tell you it is!

woman no validationYou need to PROVE NOTHING.

You do not need money to thrive in this world.

What you WANT to thrive is to see happiness and love as you look in to your world. When you don’t see it, or when you see the opposite to it, you feel sad or angry.

That’s why your world could look perfect to everyone else, and you could have everything you thought you ever wanted, but if your man is not happy, something is missing.

You can do something about it by remembering Who You Are.

You can help a man feel safe by TRUSTING YOU ARE SAFE.

You can change the world by deciding that the power doesn’t lie with the men of the world. You don’t need to be afraid of violence when you remember your power. And when enough women remember their power, there will cease to be violence because enough of the collective consciousness of humanity will be seeing beauty and love as they look in to the world, rather than seeing war and fear.

So, I’m calling all women – Me and Dolly Parton actually 😉

“Stand by your man!”

Teach him. Lead him. So he feel safe to lead you. Until there comes another time when he wants you to lead him again. Then you are beside each other.

Remember Love. Because the world needs you to remember Love right now.

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The Dalai Lama said the western woman will change the world. He said it because we have the greatest conditions to feel truly safe, and to not only remember our true power, but use our resources to communicate and collaborate with others, so we can change the collective consciousness to Love, not fear.

It’s not about You anymore. Really, it’s not. You’ll be fine.

It’s about your kids. It’s about the future of humanity as a species. It’s not about Earth. She’ll be fine too. She’s the strongest and most enduring of all of us. And she will keep holding the space.

strong women= strong worldThis is about LOVE.

And it’s up to You to take the lead RIGHT NOW.

You know how to do it. It’s in your DNA. Just sit down, give yourself some space. And remember.

Now get to it.

 

Love, Kirsty

 

Healthier Kids, Healthier Home, Happier You

Hi, it’s Kirsty.

You want the best for your kids. We all do. But there can be so much in our environment that’s not for their best.

That’s why I created ‘Healthier Kids, Healthier Home, Happier You’

child with world in his handsBecause we believe this generation of children are incredibly powerful and, given the right tools and wisely facilitated by us as their parents and teachers, they will create a healthier, more sustainable and more empowered world. And that makes us happier too.

So I want to invite you to a day with me, where I will teach you how to begin to create a home that’s free from toxicity and, in the process, teach your children how to do it too, naturally.

Children’s allergies and dis-eases are on the rise, and one of the reasons is because we’re constantly bombarded with toxicity in our environment. Our kids’ immune systems and detoxifying organs are overloaded before they even begin.

And, let’s face it, in many cases, our every day life is not designed to create resilience for the future. Unless of course you know how to choose viable alternatives.

But many people still don’t know where to start, or think it’s too hard, or too expensive. But it’s not.

Imagine your children living in a world free of dis-ease, free of toxicity and toxic imposition.

You can help them create this. It CAN be a reality for you. It is for me, and for my family.


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Why Me?

15 years ago I was given the gift of ‘Depression’. It was a gift because the dis-ease asked me to sit up and take note of my life. It was the catalyst for me to change my life, and lead me on a path to discover not only the importance of natural living, but also the beauty of using nature’s medicines.

Since then I became a naturopath, specializing in nutritional and herbal medicine. Added to that I’ve studied and practiced loads of vibrational healing methods. I’ve used what I’ve learned in practice for the last 12 years, and my LIFE is a constant practice of using these methods.


So I want to share some of it with you when you join me for a day of discovery, nurturing and fun.


Here’s a few things we’ll cover:


** Understand how and why your environment affects your personal space – it’s NOT just physical!

**Learn how to easily give your kids better nutrition, AND a stronger immune system.

** Feel more confident to make changes in your home, and how to teach your children how to make changes that promote more natural living

**Understand the power of your environment, as I said before – it’s not just physical

**Learn how to make simple, EFFECTIVE alternatives to many chemical products in your home, with items already in your kitchen or bathroom cupboard. And SAVE money in the process

**Learn simple techniques for personal space and peace, and therefore greater harmony in your home! 

I guarantee you will walk away with a bunch of information and new awareness, which you can IMMEDIATELY begin to apply in your home. 

If you don’t feel satisfied I have taught you anything new I’ll give you your money back.

Join me, in Mudgeeraba on the Gold Coast, for just $49. Your investment includes a day of education AND relaxation, recipes for healthy living, and morning and afternoon tea.

For more information, and to book, click this link to Eventbrite to register:

http://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/healthier-kids-healthier-home-happier-you-tickets-13217149851?utm_campaign=new_eventv2&utm_medium=email&utm_source=eb_email&utm_term=eventurl_text

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For those who know you want to come, so you scroll quickly to the end and sometimes miss the details (like me 🙂 ), here’s the summary:


Date: 11 October 2014, 9.30am-4.30pm
Venue: Mudgeeraba Gold Coast, location and directions advised once booking made
Investment: $49 
How To Register:

Click this link to Eventbrite to register: 

http://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/healthier-kids-healthier-home-happier-you-tickets-13217149851?utm_campaign=new_eventv2&utm_medium=email&utm_source=eb_email&utm_term=eventurl_text

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